As a result, your success reminds them they are not willing to put in effort to succeed. In many ways these people who hate you are ironically your biggest fans. People who try to pull you down often do so because they see you as above them. Perhaps you used to be equals — at about the same level. They want to put you back in your place so that things remain status quo — instead of accepting your status improvements. Remember the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.
They worry your bad luck is contagious. Perhaps they once rejected you — in some way — for something. Then you had the audacity to improve yourself and your life! How dare you! As a result, your haters now feel like they are missing out on the new improved you. Or maybe you simply are choosing not to socialize with them as often as they want. Or work with them.
Haters are not at your level. They are at a level below you, hence the hate. They believe they are trapped there and so they are. Haters actually do the opposite. They validate you in front of everyone. Subconsciously they deeply admire and respect you, so their attempts to bring you down will be riddled with self-sabotage and errors that actually end up being a boon to you. Like they will behave in exactly a way that over time makes clear to everyone their motives, and that repressed admiration will mean they hand you success on a silver platter.
They will accidentally screw up in just the ways that you need. If you aint got no haters you def aint poppin. As soon as you go to stand for any kind of principle or way of being in the world or begin to succeed, those who envy the same thing you will react extremely negatively. Haters are likely your fault. We all screw up, but they are drawn to and become obsessed with your fallibility. They desire your demise.
You can ignore them. Unless they choose to grow which means acknowledging error and making restitution , they remain stuck where they are indefinitely. Haters break your heart in just the right way. They are going to go after the values and principles that you hold most dear, to try to strip you of your righteousness. Haters are in pain. Deep psychological and emotional torment, usually. Nurses, doctors, EMTs can show you their scars, where a patient stabbed them or hurt them, whether intentionally or not.
To be a hater is to be a mess. There may be addiction or whatnot, or just undeveloped character. They fear sunshine on their behavior more than anything else. When you shed light on the situation by not playing along with deceptions, etc. Haters are better than anything you could ever want on your resume. Just the fact that they do whatever it is they try to do to harm you is a validation that they sense you are going to be successful.
Plus, no one is successful nowadays without them. So, their activities are really a badge of honor, especially as time goes on. Like every day after you get rid of haters success just falls in your lap. Haters have been busy. So they spend a LOT of time trying to think of passive or passive-aggressive ways to harm you. But this is a good thing, because the minute they are out of your lives, all of these BETTER relationships suddenly sprout up.
The best way to tell a hater is: look at how they treat others and look at their actions. Don't think you are special. If they tear down and disrespect people they consider friends, and then smile in their faces when they come around, don't deceive yourself as though they won't be the same with you.
I think the hardest thing for us as humans to do is accept people for exactly who they are. As Maya Angelou said, "When someone shows you their true colors, believe them.
Don't get tricked into thinking that you have to carry the burden of hate. The psychology of a hater is to impose their self-hate on others. It's not as much about you as it is about them.
Don't take hate personally, because at the end of the day -- it just isn't. Don't look at hate as a reflection of yourself and your work, but don't use it as a crutch either. Take time to reflect and critique yourself and surround yourself with others who are honest enough to do the same.
Now go get you some haters! News U. Politics Joe Biden Congress Extremism. Special Projects Highline. HuffPost Personal Video Horoscopes. Follow Us. Very sad that hating has to exist as some people cannot cope with the negativity and that's where lives are broken and taken but with a lot it fuels them to push harder cos like that quote says, have you ever met a hater doing better than you?
BTW :- I like Buzzfeed lmao. Great post and one for those to think about and hopefully it'll help others going through haters in their lives whatever their situation.
Haters don't have a life. Live yours to the fullest! Haters are going to always hate. LimaMonroe xo. Finally getting around to replying to the comments!
It is sad how some would prefer to snipe at successful people rather than try to build their own success, which one works out better in the long run? I think you're right, hating becomes a way of life for these people, it's much easier for them to hate than to focus on their own shortcomings. The former friends also tend to do that really annoying thing of dragging other people into this non-existent conflict they've created in their mind, then they hide behind the people they've drafted in and try to make you look like the bad guy.
And yes, we can all be negative at times but we are in control of that, haters have long since lost control and let that drive them. I wish it wasn't the case that hating existed, but c'est la vie - gotta beat 'em ; LimaMonroe xo. I hate that there even has to be a post about this! I always think the best way is to ignore it. Constructive criticism is fine and helpful but blatant nastiness is just unnecessary. Some very sad people out there who spend their time trying to knock down other people sheepishlyshameful.
I hated having to write it, but realise there are victims out there who feel completely unsupported. That's a dark place to be in and can have long lasting consequences. We should all welcome constructive criticism, as it's designed to help us out, but there's no place for such nastiness!
Maybe the haters ought to get out more? Ok Do you have a spy over here in Ireland!?! I read that post nodding the whole time and it's exactly what I needed to hear : I had issued last year with someone and signs on its not going to end anytime soon and every point you made above is one that someone has said to me or I realised myself.
I was talking to fellow bloggers recently about how I'm not sure if I want more success with the blog because of the haters out there. I'm a big softie and take things to heart, letting them affect me too much and after having time to chill and think over Christmas, I'm ready to bring it on and kick bloggy ass! I've been a longtime fan of yours and love how confident you are. You know who you are and don't apologise for that and this post has inspired me to do the same : thanks lady!
Fantastic post! Thank you, I hope the haters haven't been hating on you! Great post! You really summed up everything. Good, that is of course the best way to deal with them - starve them of oxygen not literally, of course!
Thank you SO much for this wonderful post, it's come at the perfect time! Their insults were pretty ridiculous I think it was mostly kids but I really wasn't expecting anything like that, and it really got me down! Thankfully I'm feeling more positive now though, and will keep on doing my thing! You are most welcome, sweets! Wow, if you've attracted some hate within your first few days you must be doing something right!
Keep your chin up and power on through it - I notice you haven't blogged since your comment, hope you've not given in just yet. So sassy haha I love it!
I'm not too well known in the bloggersphere so hopefully I won't get too many hate comments! D: Scary! This is a really interesting and as you say yourself 'empowering' post. You're right, people do behave in all the wrong ways online. It's like basic etiquette goes out the window. Thankfully I have yet to encounter such a problem but I am glad you have found ways to deal with it and have shared them with everyone for others to remind themselves they're not the only ones.
I don't know if this would interest you but I actually interviewed a psychologist about this and similar behaviour and there's a post all about it on my blog if you wanted a read.
Love your positive outlook on haters - sometimes it's hard not to get them down! I'm lucky that I've never experienced hate on my blog, but then again I'm not particularly big in the blogging world.
It's a shame that people have to experience it. I got bullied all through school, the hate is similar to this. Just jealousy over freebies instead of good grades. Just rise above it :. Wow what an in-depth post! So wonderful that you can be who you want to be and balls to whatever the haters think!
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